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The Unity Ceremony

There is a special part in most traditional wedding ceremonies that is looked to as the symbol of unity. This is referred to as the unity ceremony and is a visual symbol of the joining of two families. We want to share with you some of the ideas we have seen represented through the years as a way to show the combining of couples and their families.

Unity Candle

This is the most well-known version of the unity ceremony. The unity candle is usually 2 taper candles surrounding 1 pillar candle. During the processional, a representative of the bride and a representative of the groom, most often their mothers, would each light one of the taper candles symbolizing the 2 families. The bride would then take the candle lit by her mother and the groom, the candle lit by his mother, and they would use those candles to light the pillar candle in the center, representing the two becoming one.

Unity Sand

The sand ceremony is based on the unity candle ceremony, where the bride and groom join their sides together into one flame. Because flames have to be eventually blown out, some prefer to use the sand ceremony as it is a longer lasting symbol. The visual lends to the difficulty it takes to separate the grains of sand as usually the bride is represented as one color and the groom as another.

Three Cord Strand

This is another very popular version of the unity ceremony and is often referred to as God’s Knot Cord of Three Strand. The cord symbolizes the joining of one groom and one bride by God into a marriage relationship, as marriage takes three. During the ceremony, the bride and the groom braid their strands together with the third strand. During the braiding, it is a great idea to have someone reading to give an explanation of what is being done.

The Unity Cross

The unity cross is a sculpture that is assembled during the wedding ceremony, symbolizing a bride and groom becoming one in the body of Christ. The groom places the outer cross in the wood base. The bride places the sculptured cross inside the outer cross. The bride and groom use three pegs, left right and upper, symbolizing the father, the son, and the holy spirit, as the minister explains what the sculpture represents.

There are so many other examples of what can be used during this part of the wedding ceremony to be a great representation of your love and unity. We have seen things used in place of candles and sand, such as glass later to be turned into a beautiful and elegant keepsake, and can’t help but smile when thinking about the long-lasting effect it will have on the couple.

What creative way will you use to represent the unifying of your two families and love for one another? We would love to know.

Until next time…

be sweet & happy planning!


(photo credit: Antoine Lever)

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